Life in the Dominican Republic: (African) American vs Dominican women

 

A while back someone commented on my Youtube channel asking about my opinions between the differences between Dominican and African American women. This is a very good question, but difficult to answer, because there are many different angles to look at. But I will just explain the reasons why I enjoy Dominican women and also why I didn't get that much attention from African- American women or really just any type of women in the U.S. 

Dominican Women 

Regular guys win 

From my experiences and conversations with Dominican women I realize that your physique  really does not matter. As a regular looking guy myself, this is a big relief. 

I remember being in the U.S. and thinking that if I work out and tone my muscles enough that that would attract women's attention towards me.  However, here in the Dominican Republic that is not the case. 

Obviously I am sure Dominican women would like a guy with muscles and who is good looking, but it is not essential or a make or break attribute. A regular looking guy who dresses respectably will find a lot of success with women in the DR. 

Going into "the game" knowing this is helpful, because it allows you to focus on what is important. 

Hardworking men win 

In the U.S. and in the Dominican Republic, women want a man who is financially stable. However what is financially stable in the U.S. is much different compared to what is financially stable here in the Dominican Republic. 

If you are able to live here in the DR and carve out a salary of anything between $30,000 - $50,000 dollars per year then for most women that would make you very attractive. 

Even though the  Dominican Republic has made many positive strides as it relates to economic growth and development, this is still a country with a lot of poverty and third-world characteristics. 

For that reason I think a lot of Dominican women appreciate and don't take for granted a man who is hard working and generous. 

Traditionalism 

If you are looking for a traditional relationship then Dominican Republic is the spot for you. Most women I have encountered expect some level of traditionalism from the man. 

That might mean that the man must offer some level of commitment or exclusivity before getting physically intimate.

Or that could mean she will expect you to pay for almost everything as it relates to going on dates, getting her hair and nails done, her bills and plenty of other unexpected situations that may need to be financially taken care of. 

A few years ago, this type of traditionalistic relationship was difficult for me to accept, especially about the money. But now I appreciate how upfront women are about what they need, because as a man it makes the decision if I want to get involved with a particular woman very easy and clear. 

(African) American Women 

Miami 2017

Online Dating is Dead 

Most of the Dominican women I have hung out with I  met them first, online, specifically on tinder. In the United States I used tinder on and off, but before I left for the Dominican Republic I was in Arizona and was swiping frequently. In a span of three or four months I matched with three women and never met in person with any of them. 

Studies have shown that online dating for the average man in the United States is a difficult experience and not really the best place to meet women. 

While I was in Arizona I was teaching English online and taking online classes from Miami Dade College. In my free time I would usually play volleyball at various parks in Tempe and Phoenix. 

So my opportunities to meet a lot of women were very limited. I would need to really go out of my way to just be in the presence of eligible women in order to just  try a "cold approach" and hope for the best. 

Tempe 2021

Good is not good enough 

From my observations of women close to me I have seen that good is not always good enough. 

For example I have seen a marriage dissolve because the woman wanted more from the man emotionally and spiritually even though he was hard working and provided everything financially. 

Also I have seen a woman leave a good boyfriend and loving relationship in order to pursue her own dreams and professional desires. 

One of the pitfalls of dating an American woman is that down the line she may not want to take a supportive role which can cause friction in the relationship. Also she may feel like she has outgrown you whether that be financially, mentally, spiritually or in any other way. 

Conclusion 

I can not say that I would prefer to be in a long term relationship with a Dominican woman more than an African American woman. 

However, at this stage in my life being in the Dominican Republic and dating  Dominican women is a much more enjoyable and fruitful experience than dating in the U.S. 

At the end of the day this has a lot more to do with social and economic factors outside of just dating and relationships. 

If you are a young average man in the U.S.  coming to the realization that just even getting a date in the states is a struggle then I would recommend that you forget about dating , focus on yourself and getting your money right and start blazing a path for yourself in the Dominican Republic or another foreign country where you know you will be able to enjoy the fruits of your labor. 

Life in the Dominican Republic: Photoshoot At Playa Sosua

 

Playa Sosua is great for snorkeling, relaxing on the beach, buying souvenirs and having a fun photoshoot. 

I had a great time taking pictures of Stefany and Sara. They are both Dominicanas with an energetic personality and beautiful shape. 

Other than the photoshoot we had fun playing beach paddle ball. Unfortunately I wasn't able to show too much of the paddle ball in the video  because Youtube said it wasn't "ad -friendly". 

Well, if you are interested in watching my original version of the video with longer scenes of the photoshoot and beach paddle ball feel free to watch below! 

Life in the Dominican Republic: Las Terrenas vs Sosua

 

Recently, someone asked me via instagram which city in the Dominican Republic I like the most. This is a very difficult question to answer because each city has something that makes it special and also because I have not visited all of the major cities here in the Dominican Republic. 

So far I have only been to Santo Domingo, Las Terrenas, Santiago and now I am currently in Sosua. But up to this point I would say Las Terrenas and Sosua are my favorites.

 Even though they are both small beach towns they are completely different in many ways but the differences that stand out to me the most relate to the architecture, energy/vibe, and the demographics. 

Architecture 

When you walk through the main strip of Las Terrenas you can see a plaza that is in the design of a cruise ship, a newly renovated playground for children and an incredible boardwalk that stretches from Playa Las Terrenas all the way to the beginning of Punta Popy. 

Overall it is very noticeable that the city designers of Las Terrenas care about the way their town looks and are always actively trying to make improvements. 

On the other hand, in Sosua it seems like someone wanted to make a grimy version of Ocean Drive which would be Pedro Clisante and then just haphazardly built around that. Here you can find some abandon buildings, demolished venues and other eyesores on the main strip of Sosua. 

Energy and Vibe 

Imagine sitting down on the beach by yourself or with a significant other and feeling a nice breeze as you watch one of the most beautiful sunsets you have ever seen. Now imagine doing that every late afternoon you are in Las Terrenas. If that sounds enjoyable and like a good time for you then I would definitely suggest Las Terrenas to you. 

But if you like feeling the pulse of a vibrant town, people watching and ending wild nights with a beauty you may or may not know in the morning then I would suggest Sosua. 

While I was in Las Terrenas I saw a lot of foreigners complain in facebook groups that there wasn't enough to do or that it became very boring. 

Las Terrenas has bars and a few dance clubs, but in general it's not the best place to be a single male. You can find some fun night activities to get into, but it's not always easy or a guarantee.  

Sosua is much more attractive as it relates to entertainment and being able to find a good time. Obviously if you are willing to pay  a price you can also find some very physically attractive ladies to accompany you throughout the evening as well. 

Demographics 

As it relates to the demographics of foreigners and tourists in Las Terrenas you will find a lot of Europeans from all over Europe, but especially from France and Italy. Also there is a large contention of Canadian immigrants and tourists in Las Terrenas. 

Sometimes living in Las Terrenas felt like being in one large senior home, because most of the expats there were middle aged or older. Obviously there are young people there as well, but overall the vibe in Las Terrenas is not youthful. 

On the flip side, the demographics in Sosua are a little bit more American and much browner. I see a lot of African- Americans here in Sosua. Also just from the walking street I hear much more English spoken from caucasians. 

In general most of the expats and tourists are middle aged and up, but there is definitely a higher amount of  twenty and thirty year olds visiting Sosua, which I think adds to the vibrancy of the town.